Does it Hurt?
Let me get this question out of the way first? Does erotic hot wax hurt??
Short answer: if you have body hair, yes (the removal); if not, it can be modulated at any level between very gentle and very intense.
A beauty of how wax as a form of erotic play is that it’s very, very adjustable – as long as there’s no body hair involved: to make the experience more mellow, simply increase the distance between the body and the candle, and/or use special, low-temperature candles. Some people describe gentle hot-wax play to feel like a “warm tickling sensation.”
Increasing the distance is much easier if the “submissive” (recipient) is lying or kneeling down; in that case, the “dominant” (giver) can probably simply stand up and lift his/her arm up high.
It goes without saying that the eyes and the hair on the head must be completely avoided. Beginners should not get anywhere near the head! Nipples are fine if tolerated, and likewise for the (shaved) pussy area.
Hot Wax as an “Appetizer”
The simplest use for hot wax as a form of erotic play, and a great way for beginners to experiment with it, is as a form of foreplay. (I’m assuming that the recipient is a woman, or a man with no body hair, because if there’s body hair involved then hot wax cannot be a form of light play.)
Indeed, at the erotic film studio where I work, many tend to regard Hot Wax as an “appetizer”, to “tenderize” the submissive before the “main meal”… (Damn, I shouldn’t write posts when I’m hungry!)
If hot wax is the appetizer, what’s the main meal?? I would vote for WHIPPING. As a matter of fact, using whipping to “clear out” the hot wax is very sexy!
On a practical note, hot wax can also come in handy as a “spacer”, when the sub has taken all the spanking, enemas, etc, that she can take for a while.
Last but not least, those candles used for the hot wax, come in very handy for pussy or anal insertion – and that looks especially, ahem, HOT if they’re still lit! Needless to say, use caution for the sake of not hurting the submissive and, last but not least, for the sake of not setting the bed on fire…
Hot Wax as the “Main Meal”
I feel that hot wax – just like bondage – has an aesthetic quality that can be fascinating by itself. Furthermore, the erotic hot wax experience can be made more intense and/or extensive, and gradually transform into less of a foreplay session and more into a main meal.
Nonetheless, I remain under the impression that most people who use hot wax as an erotic experience, combine it with other forms of erotic play.
Before branching out into any form of kinky erotic play, it’s always good to take a look at how others do it. And, besides, hot wax scenes make for very sexy and enticing watching on video. So, let’s say that you want to watch it. Where to find it?
Finding Hot Wax scenes is a great example of “Erotic Information Management”, which as you probably know is a big part of my job.
Hot Wax scenes like those tend to be a “side-dish” in many BDSM studios, easily lost in the shuffle among a lot of other films and other erotic elements. But how to pull together all those hot-wax scenes? Well, that’s where Erotic Information Management comes in handy. For example, here’s a filter that brings together erotic how wax videos shot by the sex movie studio where I work or by other studios that are collaborating with us.
Drip, drip, drip…
For me personally, my tolerance is medium/high, especially if aroused before. I especially love the anticipation of the imminent drip. Just like many others say, I find that the anticipation – especially if my Dom is teasing me about it – is on par in terms of pleasure with the actual skin contact.
I’d love to hear in the comments about your experience. Or, if you’ve never tried it, that’s your homework 🙂